tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044241998760816228.post2275876755840423373..comments2023-08-05T09:39:44.204-07:00Comments on Jellybean Mama: Toddler Lessons and DefianceKitchenCathihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04306681016007457946noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044241998760816228.post-85344313120957256202010-01-03T16:12:25.771-08:002010-01-03T16:12:25.771-08:00Let us up and comers know what works - I'm gon...Let us up and comers know what works - I'm gonna need all the advice I can get! Good luck.Genkicathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16588371829033093762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044241998760816228.post-89226309927833250122010-01-02T20:47:28.675-08:002010-01-02T20:47:28.675-08:00Let's talk. I FINALLY figured out a discipline...Let's talk. I FINALLY figured out a discipline approach, after almost turning into a child abuser due to frustration (ironic that I won't spank but then almost beat them because I get so frustrated, non?).<br /><br />Hooray for helpers! Who knew "We help Mommy" actually meant "We make ordinary tasks take twice as long!"<br /><br />So tired right now ...Rector Funhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08898580145735042579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044241998760816228.post-54793051993195329642009-12-30T08:58:23.546-08:002009-12-30T08:58:23.546-08:00I must admit....I am guilty of being a "count...I must admit....I am guilty of being a "counter". Although now that my 2 year old knows how to count to three he thinks it's a blast. I'll say "Bennet, come out of the fridge please" "Bennet....come out please" "Bennet, one..." and he happily finishes with "two three!!". Yep, definitely does NOT work. I do agree with Barb though, I can usually get him to stop something if I give him a choice. He will always listen if the other option is going to bed!Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04361436428201286010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044241998760816228.post-36973759661630940972009-12-29T14:20:38.206-08:002009-12-29T14:20:38.206-08:00Oh, can I relate to all of this!!! They are so muc...Oh, can I relate to all of this!!! They are so much fun right now as they want to help and imitate everything you do, but they definitely have their opinions. And it's nearly impossible to get them to lay down for a diaper change. There are two things that work for me: 1) blackmail and distraction with a toy so I can grab him and do the diaper, and 2) giving him a choice such as "Come over here and let mama change your diaper or you're going to bed" or "Come here right now or you're going on the naughty mat." Both of these seem to work, but only because I've followed through with previous threats. He knows I mean it. So now I offer a choice. If he chooses correctly I praise him, and if he chooses the other thing I offered, he gets it... whether it's the naughty matt or bed or whatever. They really just want control, and giving them a choice lets them feel like they have control. Good luck. You feel like an amazing parent when it works, but you're insanely frustrated when it doesn't. :)Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13825917249577062457noreply@blogger.com