Monday, October 5, 2009

We're Still Standing. But Mostly Sitting, Because We're Lazy Like That.

Hello, internet friends, sorry to keep you waiting. Last week things kind of fell apart, even more so than I already wrote about - nanny and her son got sick, Jenny and I got sick, things at work fell apart, my stress level was through the roof. Anyhow, the barfing is now done with and I don't EVER want to see poor little Jellybean go through that again (dudes, seriously, it was SO. SAD.). Also, I would prefer to not have someone yammy down the front of my shirt again anytime soon. But this weekend we took it easy, did some Halloween decorating, and had lots of couch time, so physically we're better although mentally I'm still stress-headache-central. Tomorrow morning Jellybean and I are going to go hang out at Miss N's for a few hours, then on Wednesday she'll do a half day by herself, then Thursday will be her first full official day at her new in-home daycare up the street.

I will write more later this week after I have recovered from the trauma of nanny's final days and Jelly not being here.

And thank you, everyone. Thanks for the kind words and the advice and the offers of support and for listening to me and for worrying about Jellybean right along with me. It's comforting to be reminded that I don't really carry this alone. And there are lots of voices of reason out there, and you're all totally right.

And now, some pictures of my totally crazy child to make you smile on a Monday:


Shannon said...

Poor Jenny! Poor Cathi! You have had too much drama! I hope things calm down soon.

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Kristin said...

Cathi - I've never commented before, but I just wanted to say I really like your blog. I found you through your TM sig - I started reading because your Jellybean and my Ellie have the same bday (it always caught my attention whenever you posted). Anyway, just wanted to hi and I hope the past couple weeks have been less stressful for you guys.